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Plus size: Beauty transcends measurements

It can be difficult growing up carrying a few extra kilos in a cruel world where being skinny is the No 1 goal. But through self-acceptance and love, it's possible to live a happy life. Besides, all the rude comments are just a lot of noise so stand tall!

by Vateka Halile
26th April 2023
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Plus size: Beauty transcends measurements

Zintle Mayekiso feels that the society in which she grew up is hostile to plus-size people. Photo: Supplied/Health For Mzansi

Beauty comes in a variety of forms and shapes. If you looked across various cultures and times, you would see that people had (and still have) differing ideas about beauty. Some people favour curved, while others prefer slender, tall, or short. Beauty, however, is more than what we can perceive with our eyes; it is found within!

For Zintle Mayekiso (22) of Zwide in Gqeberha, carrying a lot of weight made her a laughing stock for many years. She recalls being mocked by her classmates at Booysen Park Primary School in the north of Zwide when she was a little girl.

“I have been called Sdudla, ‘fat one’, and other derogatory names. Then I started thinking of myself as a weirdo. I began to believe and think that beauty is measured by body size and shape.”

Plus size: Beauty transcends measurements
Zintle Mayekiso says being a big child in communities made life harder. Photo: Supplied/Health For Mzansi

Due to the abuse she experienced as a young girl, Mayekiso developed a hatred for herself and began to fantasise about having the thin, petite form that society deems to be the most beautiful in the world.

“I kept hating my body, felt like I couldn’t do anything. And when I looked around, the only active people I saw were slender people who were participating in sports.”

Getting out of her comfort zone

When Mayekiso moved over to Khwezi Lomso Comprehensive School in 2015, she avoided sports and other physical pursuits until her English teacher and rugby coach, Mr Zokoza, encouraged her to join the team.

“Initially, I believed that sport wasn’t for me. It was quite difficult for me to play openly and freely with other children since I had no confidence at all, and the ability to trust my own strength.”

Mayekiso was able to view life from a fresh viewpoint as a result of her physical training, disciplinary tactics, and interaction with other children and adults of all ages.

She tells Health For Mzansi that she appreciated the setting because it let her see that she could accomplish some tasks without feeling inferior.

“I have received participation and runner-up medals. In my sports journey, having to play for a provincial team was my greatest accomplishment.”

Damaging comments

It all starts when someone has a complexion that is too dark, at which point the society starts calling them “blacky”, or “Sdudla” if one is chubby. Mayekiso calls this behaviour unpleasant and disrespectful.

She says being a big child in some communities makes things much harder.

“People would say I look inappropriate in short clothing and a fat person is not supposed to wear revealing clothes.”

She feels that the society in which she grew up, is hostile to plus-size people. They expose people to their perception of what a decent overweight person should look like in order to be acceptable by society, she adds.

“As a result of all of this, I fell under the spell of body dissatisfaction, which was linked to a variety of physical and mental health problems such as anorexia, depression, and body image disturbance.”

Learning about self-love and acceptance

Every big-bodied person deserves the same respect and attention as everyone else. According to Mayekiso, it is every parent’s responsibility to handle the abuse that comes with being different, whether it be skin colour, language, bodily differences, or physical appearance.

Mayekiso says she got lifesaving knowledge when she joined Ubuntu Pathways for an educational programme called PLP, which focuses on empowering and assisting adolescents with skills.

“There were numerous options, but I opted for fashion design. I did textile design and leather crafts and…. Oh Lord, I learned so much there; about self-belief, self-love, and body acceptance.”

She states that she has never looked back since and that she has been able to regain her confidence.


What is the best way to get started?

Plus size: Beauty transcends measurements
Zintle Mayekiso feels that developing a thick skin is necessary to fight body shaming. Photo: Supplied/Health For Mzansi

There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question and many others like cryptocurrency for example. The best way to get started with cryptocurrency trading will vary depending on your level of experience, resources, and goals. However, some tips on how to get started with cryptocurrency trading include reading up on cryptocurrency basics, establishing a trading strategy, and setting up a secure trading account. The same goes for self-acceptance and overcoming body-image issues.

Bullies are everywhere, and Mayekiso warns that if you don’t develop a thick skin, you may end up committing suicide.

“I now know that I am beautiful in and out. I carry myself with a smile and confidence.”

Being content with the beauty she sees in the mirror, being entirely comfortable with everything inside, from looks to how she feels, is what keeps Mayekiso going every day.

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Vateka Halile

Vateka Halile

Vateka Halile grew up in rural areas of Cofimvaba in the Eastern Cape. She was raised in a traditional family setting and found writing to be a source of comfort and escape. Vateka participated in an online citizen journalism course through Food For Mzansi, and her passion for health and medicine-related stories was born. Her dedication to community work and love for social justice and solidarity spaces is evident in her quality time with the community when she isn't working.

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