Honest Joe from Johannesburg writes…
My dearest Honest
First things first, you need to understand that your fears are valid. Change can be stressful. And having a baby is one of the biggest life changes any person can go through.
It’s been six months. When will you be ready? Parenthood is the real deal. It’s not all about you and your needs anymore. I suggest you get a grip and get some help. You need to have a different outlook on how you take care of yourself now. For your sake and for your child’s sake. They are counting on you.
Now onto your baby mama. While you evidently love each other, this instability in your relationship is not fair to either of you. I have four suggestions for you.
Firstly, if you make the decision to break up, don’t give into fear or pressure. If you want to stay with her it shouldn’t be because you are scared of the alternative. Be alone because it is healthier and believe you are doing what is best for your child.
Second, have a conversation with her and put all of your cards on that table. Communication is key in figuring out if the relationship is a good match or not. Break up with this idea of being an “on-again-off-again couple.” It’s either you are staying or you say goodbye for good.
Third, listen to your gut. I know investing in yourself sounds cliché but you are now a motswadi you and your baby take priority.
Fourth, stand up for yourself. My dude you need to tell your parents. I think a baby is too big a secret to keep to yourself. You deserve better, and your child deserves better. Do the right thing and stand firm.
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Liewe Lulu has moved from Food For Mzansi, where she used to help readers in agriculture with their love life. Now, you can follow her here on Health For Mzansi. The content in this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical and/or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition.