Smelly in the City from Cape Town writes…
My Dearest Smelly
I want us to try a different approach. Instead of pointing out your grievances with his haphazard shower schedule, try to ask him why he is neglecting his hygiene.
I am afraid that your boo’s sub-par hygiene habits could be indicative of much larger problems related to his mental health or even from his past.
One of the worst things about mental illness is how it creeps into so many parts of your life and affects even the most mundane of things like showering or even brushing your teeth.
Good hygiene has many benefits that prevent disease and help us care for our bodies. A lot of the time we associate poor hygiene with undignified human experiences like poverty, laziness, and homelessness. We discriminate against it and fail to see or believe that there could be a deeper root cause. Forgoing common hygiene practices could be a physical sign that a person is having trouble mentally or emotionally.
He must learn to identify his distorted thoughts and adjust. He may not ever be a man in Axe advertisements but with some professional help, he can learn to make more clean and clear decisions.
Have you tried showering with him? It could motivate him to get clean if you’re there to entice him. Good luck!
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Liewe Lulu is Food For Mzansi’s agri agony aunty. The content in this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical and/or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition.