Nurse Delusional from Hartswater in the Northern Cape writes…
My dearest Nurse Delusional
Are you besotted or are you dried up from the lack of vision in your young Lamoureux? Worse yet, are you frustrated by his lack of urgency to build a future? Those are the real pressing questions your letter sparks.
When we are in love with someone, we never imagine the prospect of one day falling out of love with them. Diagnosis: You have fallen out of love. How could someone you were once so crazy about all of the sudden leave you with an emotional flatline? Has the relationship reached its expiration date or are you and your significant other in a bit of a slump?
These are confusing times to engage in a relationship.
Let me tell you about the trouble with lazy men; and correct me if I am wrong, but if he is lazy, he will not change.
I am busting out the Good Book for this one when I say: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others; it is not self-seeking. It is not.
As love fades, so does your patience. You have found yourself quicker to criticise and slower to forgive their annoyances. In his case, his questionable values and lack of urgency to get off his a**.
The moment a love begins to feel heavy and inconvenient, is it even a love anymore? Nope. Love is give and take, it cannot be that you are giving 75% while he gives you 25.
It’s a partnership. He must do his due diligence if he has real intentions of keeping you. Ship in or ship out. You have three whole children; did you sign up to raise a fourth? No. He must get himself together, man!
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Liewe Lulu is Health For Mzansi’s agony aunty. The content in this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical and/or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition.