Axed wife from Mamelodi writes…
My dearest Axed Wife…
Do not text those women. It’s already hard to defend men but your husband was transparent when he told you that he maintained a friendship with his exes. The problem is that you decided to let this go. You said you were cool with it. And you lied to yourself.
This is not about who your hubby is in contact with or not. It is about the fact that you feel something is not quite right. Pay attention to those feelings and let’s explore them.
Your current situation makes for a very unpleasant cycle for the both of you. One where he feels the need to hide his friendship with his exes from you and one where you do not trust this man.
Trust is fundamental in a relationship.
For you guys to have a future, you need to be able to trust him with your fears and know he will try to understand them. He should not only respect them, but he should also affirm them. A relationship where you doubt both him and yourself will eventually exhaust you.
I would encourage you and your hubby to seek counselling to figure out the best way you can develop effective communication strategies rather than going through your husband’s phone.
Love, light and healing.
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