Flushed Away from Pietermaritzburg writes...
My dearest Flushed
When a woman with a short fuse who goes from zero to 100 in the blink of an eye tells you that they do not want to continue a relationship with you and never wanted a relationship, believe them. It was not the first time, and it won’t be the last.
Take a hint.
She did not mince her words and made her feelings clear as daylight. Look for someone who will appreciate the love and kindness that you have to offer.
While it is possible to create a safe environment for your partner and show them a relationship that is not built on violence, it is not easy to heal from abusive relationships, and it is especially hard to explore something new with the baggage of previous trauma.
You have to know that being in an abusive relationship leaves scars even after the wounds have healed. She needs out, and you do too. I suggest she gets some counselling to work through her trauma. If you love her as much as you say, let this survivor go through her motions in peace.
Love and light!
If you were a victim of gender-based violence, the following organisations offer access to resources, information, support, legal advice and emotional support.
- Tears Foundation: 010 590 5920
- The Trauma Centre for Survivors: 021 4657373
- People Opposed to Women Abuse: 011 591 6803
- Families South Africa: 011 975 7106/7
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