Frustrated in Sleep from Kimberley writes…
My dearest Frustrated
I am here for all of the progression! It is 2022 and it’s about damn time that we make our own rules in our relationships.
I guess there is a “cardinal rule” that says that there is a special kind of intimacy that comes from sharing a bed or bedroom. But there is no law that demands that couples have to do it!
When your spouse’s sleep hygiene and habits are as contrasting as yours are, it should be beneficial for you to sleep separately. Your families should respect your choices and mind their business! I am a total STAN for your arrangement. I am a little concerned that there is conflict brewing though, especially coming from the outside.
The more conflicts you have with your spouse, the more likely you are to argue, fight, and not be happy with your marriage. Nip it in the bud. Try listening to his perspective with an open mind. Again communicate, have a healthy debate about the pros and cons of your sleeping arrangement for as long as you need to until the conflict is resolved. Or at least until you reach some kind of a compromise.
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