The idea that healthy love can feel boring is a fascinating, and surprisingly common, perception. But before jumping to conclusions, listen to this week’s Health For Mzansi podcast episode where we chat with the perfect guest to discuss relationships, Linda Yende, a relationship coach and author.
Yende explores why healthy love might seem boring and unpacks whether it’s truly a lack of excitement or something else at play.
According to him, unhealthy love often involves drama, insecurity, and uncertainty, which can create a constant sense of excitement but can also have many emotional tolls.
A healthy relationship
Yende explains that when you enter a healthy relationship, the absence of drama might initially feel like a lack of excitement and be classified as boring, even though it’s actually a positive change.
“There’s absolutely nothing wrong with what people may perceive as boring, what I may call a drama-free relationship. There’s nothing wrong with a peaceful relationship and your relationship being your safe and comfortable space. People have just started painting that as boring because people are generally attracted to drama,” he says.
Yende advises that it is important to remember that healthy love doesn’t mean a lack of growth or adventure, and that there is nothing more amazing than a foundation of friendship in a relationship.
In this episode, he also highlights:
- Misconceptions or unrealistic expectations that people may have about love and relationships and how it can contribute to feeling bored in a healthy relationship.
- Strategies that individuals can use to inject more excitement into a healthy relationship without compromising its stability and healthiness.
- Words of advice if you’re feeling bored in a healthy relationship.
Listen to the full interview on the Health For Mzansi podcast:
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