Compromising Mother Hen in Bloemfontein writes…
I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy just four months ago. I am 35 and would like to get pregnant again soon, but I am worried that it will get in the way of my career.
My husband and I are both healthcare workers. I am a nurse and he is a dietitian. My pregnancy reminded me that while women are making power moves, there are still limits for a girl who wants to be a mom and follow her dreams. It is 2023 and I wish I did not feel that way, but I do.
I am caught between my career and building my family. I am scared that by building my legacy for my children I am also not being a good mother to my baby boy and a good wife to my husband. Why must women still be the ones to compromise family or professional goals, Lulz? Is it so wrong for me to want both?
My dearest Hen
I think you are asking the wrong question, my love. The only reason to have kids is to enjoy them. Right?
The only thing that should matter to you is how much more enjoyment you can stand. And if your answer is more tiny humans, then by all means, procreate.
The idea of bringing another life into the world and the joy of seeing that tiny person grow through life, is a powerful motivator for having a child.
Saving lives as the mother of a toddler and possibly another infant is a valorous deed.
As you said, it is 2023, you can do anything your heart desires. And 20 000 women did not march to the Union Buildings for anything. Women do not hold the sole responsibility of having children just because men cannot birth them or breastfeed them.
Akere, you decided to become parents together. It takes two to create a new life and it takes a village to raise children. The support structure is crucial to raising a family.
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