Nurse Crushed from Mahikeng writes…
Liewe Lulu….
I think I might have a crush on my husband’s friend. Day and night *Kgotso stays on my mind Lulz. We are both nurses and used to work in the same public hospitals. I have wanted to tell him how I feel for years but just cannot bring myself to confess. I got a new job at a private hospital where he moonlights every month.
Every time we sit and chat I cannot help but laugh at all of his jokes and feel this electricity when he grazes my arm. We have very deep chats but I have not told him how I feel. I think he can tell, because he gives me this look man. I have been feeling this way for three years and have been married for eight years. When I am on my way home I can’t help but wish that he was with me. I hurry to get to work hoping I will see him there. I have been having fantasies about him in bed too.
I am considering messaging him and confessing all of my feelings. I have never thought about my husband this way.
My husband and I have been experiencing problems. We have tried counselling. I love him but we fight constantly and it is such a mission for me to feel excited about going home anymore. Please give me some advice on what to do. Do I confess my feelings to Kgotso and leave my husband?
Dear Nurse Crushed
Yho Darlie brieka please! Nowhere in your letter do you mention if this Kgotsi has even reciprocated your feelings.
If you contact him, what exactly will you tell him? That you love him? That you have had completely inappropriate thoughts about him sexually?
You are going to blow up your whole life over what? Lust?
I mean God forbid you go and tell Kgotso how you feel and he doesn’t feel the same? JUMPSCARE. It would be embarrassing. And if he does feel the same, do you want to bring such hurt to another person? Your husband will be devastated.
It sometimes happens in marriage that the excitement dies down after a few years. That is when we become susceptible to outside influences and start thinking that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Let me give it to you straight – it is not!
Instead of hyper-fixating your feeling of lust, I think your time and energy should be directed towards figuring out exactly when the spark in your marriage started to dwindle. Focus on fixing your marriage because if you continue on this path, you are going to lose your husband.
The next time you have inappropriate naughty dreams about Kgotso, I beg of you, switch to another channel babes.
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Liewe Lulu is Health For Mzansi’s agony aunty. The content in this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical and/or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition.
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