Uprooted from Bloemfontein in the Free State writes…
I think I caught my big fish! I am crazy in love and so happy. One problem though, I have to move to Johannesburg for a nursing job.
My career has always been a priority and this is a dream job for me. When I told bae, he was not too happy with the idea of me moving. I suggested he come with me, but he hates Gauteng with a passion and has given me a bit of an ultimatum. He has offered to take care of me if I refuse the offer.
While his alternative offer is tempting and he is so supportive already, I love what I do, wholeheartedly. The thought of playing happy housewife scares me to my core, but saying no could also cost me my relationship. Do I choose him and miss out on the opportunity of a lifetime?
My Dearest Uprooted…
Haibo, darlie. You make Liewe Lulu want to dust off her finest bottle of champers (that I have been saving for a rainy day and sanity) and drink away the jitters that your letter has caused her! I am anxious and shaken to my core by this conundrum.
My love, heed my words when I say that whenever a woman has to ask if she should choose the man, she shouldn’t…
Love will always be a top choice in my books, but love must never clip your wings, doll. And your “man” can never get in the way of you and your progress mo lifing. This man who supposedly loves you should openly celebrate your victories no matter how small and allow you to live out your wildest dreams.
Whichever ledge you want to jump off, a lifesaving angel girlie or “devoted wife” is a choice that you must make and accept the consequences of the decision afterwards.
You will honestly forever regret doing the opposite. You are a fierce lifesaver, please act accordingly sweetie!
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Liewe Lulu is Health For Mzansi’s agony aunty. The content in this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical and/or psychological advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition.